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Rotherham: As a Pakistani woman, I’d welcome a police force that didn’t rely on imams

Like everybody else, I read Professor Alexis Jay’s report in the systematic failure to protect young girls in Rotherham, with disbelief and anger.

It’s simply awful. But, for me, it struck a note of personal horror somewhere deep down.

You see, I’m a Pakistani woman born and raised in Scotland, as part of a Muslim family. And, at the age of 12, I relied on the help of police and local authorities to help me escape from honour abuse and the threat of forced marriage. As a result of my experiences, I now dedicate most of my spare time to raising awareness of these issues. I’m currently working to establish a free mental health service for those who have suffered similar abuses.

Victims are treated like criminals

Throughout the course of my work, I’ve come to understand a few things. If you are a rape victim, you can generally expect to be dismissed, disbelieved and made to relive your terrifying experiences in great detail in order to convince a courtroom that justice should be served on your attacker. Your behaviour and character will be dissected to deduce how irresponsible and, therefore culpable, you are.

And, after all that is over, you can expect little support in recovering from your ordeal and rebuilding your life. While some may believe that the handling of rape and sex abuse cases has become more effective in recent years, it’s now clear that this is simply not the case.

Read More: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/11060663/Rotherham-As-a-Pakistani-woman-Id-welcome-a-police-force-that-didnt-rely-on-imams.html

 

Child marriage for Syria refugees on the rise

BBC speaks to child brides who say their wedding day “was a sad day”

Child marriage is on the rise in refugee camps in Jordan and Lebanon housing the growing stream of refugees from Syria, recent UN reports revealed.

A report from last year by the UN Children’s Rights and Emergency Relief Organization showed that a quarter of marriages that take place in the refugee camps involve girls under the age of 18.

The BBC recently spoke to some of these young brides in the Zaatari Camp, many of which are already mothers.

One young girl who was carrying an infant called her wedding day “a sad day”. “I did not want to get married at this age,” she said.

Another girl, donning a black hijab, told the BBC that she was 14 when she had to marry a 50-year-old man from Kuwait.

She says that “Everyone was telling me to smile or laugh but my feeling was fear, from the moment we got engaged.”

 

Read More: http://www.i24news.tv/en/news/international/middle-east/41108-140822-child-marriage-for-syria-refugees-on-the-rise

Estrangement: ‘I haven’t spoken to my family for 6 years’

When I was twelve years old, I was helped to escape the threat of forced marriage and honour abuse. I’d seen it happen to other members of my family and suffered various abuses myself, although I was made to feel like the ‘attitude problem’ was mine. The local police force and social services helped me get away, but that wasn’t the end of my ordeal.

For thirteen years afterwards I struggled to overcome great confusion and emotional turmoil in an effort to maintain some semblance of a relationship with my parents. In this I was unsuccessful: the abuse continued, in less extreme forms that prolonged the psychological damage that had already been wrought.

Read More: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/womens-life/11046600/Estranged-from-my-family-I-havent-spoken-to-my-parents-in-six-years.html

Playwrights explore trauma and psychological damage of FGM

The poster is stamped with the statement that 137,000 women in the UK are living with the consequences of genital mutilation. But for the team behind the play Little Stitches, opening at a London theatre on Friday it is the individual stories behind the statistic that really matter.

The four writers of the play, opening at Theatre503, in Battersea, spent months talking to those affected by FGM, or female genital mutilation, as well as to campaigners, doctors and teachers. Each of the four – Karis Halsall, Raul Quiros Molina, Bahar Brunton and Isley Lynn – used verbatim interviews and accounts to write a piece tackling the issue, and, as the director, Alex Crampton, said, to give FGM a “living breathing presence that makes it hard to ignore”.

The decision to tackle the issue came from Melissa Dean, the founder of BAREtruth theatre company which is staging the play. She said theatre was a powerful vehicle that could break through the taboos and secrecy surrounding FGM and bring real-life stories to an audience who might otherwise be at some distance from the issue.

Read more: http://www.theguardian.com/society/2014/aug/21/play-fgm-trauma-damage-little-stitches-baretruth-theatre

Contributing to end child and forced marriage

Our government has recently announced that Canada will contribute additional funding to UNICEF’s efforts to end child and forced marriage. This project will support efforts in six countries where the practice is prevalent: Bangladesh, Burkina Faso, Ethiopia, Ghana, Yemen and Zambia.
While the concept of forced marriage seems foreign to most Canadians, the truth is that it is common practice in many countries burdened by gender discrimination. It happens, around the world, 39,000 times every day.
The practice of child and forced marriage may be widespread, however the consequences are extremely personal and intensely felt. Child marriage denies children, particularly girls, the right to make choices about their lives. These girls are stripped of their dignity sometimes even before they understand the concept. Dehumanized at a young age, they are often forced to give birth before they are ready to care for children. They are often denied the opportunity to receive education.

 

Read more: http://www.cochranetimes.com/2014/08/20/contributing-to-end-child-and-forced-marriage

Australian migrants trapped in ‘slave-like’ marriages

Kanya thought she was starting a new life in Australia after arriving from India to marry her husband, but it quickly turned into a nightmare.

She was barred from going out alone, forced to cook and clean for her partner’s family, and made to sleep outdoors if she did not complete her tasks.

The fate of the 18-year-old, whose name has been changed to protect her identity, mirrors that of others in “slave-like” relationships that Salvation Army worker Jenny Stanger has taken in at a Sydney refuge for trafficked people in recent years.

The women were lured to Australia by the promise of a happy marriage, only to be exploited by their partners.

Read more: http://www.theguardian.com/global-development/2014/aug/01/australian-migrants-slave-marriages

Activist filmmaker will shoot controversial movie about child marriage in Bay Ridge

The picture is about a Yemeni girl who is forced to marry an old man and later raped by members of his family. Filmmaker Christhian Andrews hopes to use it as a teaser to raise money from the United Nations for a longer film on forced marriage and child abuse.

 

It must have been his lucky day.

A filmmaker who was searching for a young actress to star in a potentially controversial and difficult movie ran into the right person at the right time.

Christhian Andrews was literally walking the streets of Bay Ridge last month, approaching Arabic speakers and asking them whether they had a daughter who wanted to be in a movie.

As fate would have it, the second man Andrews approached was Saeed Alabsi, a restaurant worker who spent years working at ADRA International, an agency operated by the Seventh Day Adventist Church to provide education, development assistance and disaster relief around the world. “We were very lucky,” said Andrews, 24, who is set to begin filming his picture about a Yemeni girl who is forced to marry an old man and later raped by members of his family, next week.

Alabsi said he took an immediate interest in the project and decided he wanted to help. “I’ve seen this with my own eyes,” said Alabsi, 56, who became sensitive about the issue after seeing girls married to men who were sometimes 60 years their senior.

He went home and told his 15-year-old daughter Nadya, who accepted the lead role in the film. “I want people to get educated,” said Nadya, who came to Brooklyn with her family five months ago from Yemen. “I want people to understand that what they’re doing is wrong.”

 

Read More: http://www.nydailynews.com/new-york/brooklyn/activist-filmmaker-shoot-movie-child-marriage-bay-ridge-article-1.1889140

Petition to end FGM in US nears 200,000 signatures

petition that calls on the Obama administration to tackle the issue of female genital mutilation (FGM) in the United States has been signed by nearly 200,000 people.

Jaha Dukureh, a victim of FGM who has spearheaded the Change.org petition, will be on Capitol Hill on Wednesday to meet  some of the more than 50 members of Congress who have lent their support to Dukureh’s petition, which calls on Barack Obama and the Department of Health and Human Services to commission research into the scale and severity of the problem in the US. Dukureh launched her campaign at the Guardian’s New York office last month with UN representative Nafissatou Diop, US congressman Joe Crowley and Guardian editor-in-chief Alan Rusbridger.

Doctors treating women and girls with FGM say the research is badly needed. “We would know, we’d have a better sense of it nationally … The challenge that I’ve faced over my entire career has been that often times we do not have data,” said Dr Crista Johnson-Agbakwu, who treats women from 43 countries at the Refugee Women’s Health Clinic in Phoenix, Arizona, where a “staggering amount” of her patients have been cut.

FGM is a 5,000-year-old practice that takes place  across large parts of Africa, the Middle East and south-east Asia. While there are varying types of severity, it essentially involves the partial or entire removal of the external female genitalia. Type III FGM, the most severe, requires the girl to be sewn closed until her wedding night. While there are grassroots movements in some African countries to phase out the practice, many diaspora communities still require a girl to be cut.

Read More:http://www.theguardian.com/society/2014/jun/10/end-fgm-us-petition-signatures

FGM special report: “I still can’t look at a razorblade”

Aissa Edon, 32, was pinned down and mutilated when she was just  six-years-old. “I remember everything about it,” she says, “the place, the  smell, being held down. I remember screaming – it sounded like someone else, but  it was me – and I remember blood and intense pain. Pain I can’t even  describe.”

Now a midwife in London specialising in FGM, she is happy to speak  openly to Cosmo about her experiences. “I was living in Mali when  my stepmother took me to undergo female genital mutilation (FGM). I was being  adopted by a family in France and it happened before I went away – a kind of  terrible going-away present. My one-year-old sister had it done then, too.

“When I arrived in France, my adopted parents knew straight away –  a section of my medical records was sealed, marked ‘do not open’, and the FGM  was included there. I was very lucky to be in France because I had a lot of  complications – pain for months afterward, urinary tract infections, and  psychological problems. To this day, I can’t look at a razor blade, and for  years I carried the guilt of what happened to my sister, wondering whether she’d  have escaped FGM if I hadn’t been leaving.

“I had surgery in 2004 to correct my urinary problems, and  reconstructive surgery to my clitoris in 2005. The first time I knew it was  working, I was walking down the street and I felt something strange happening  down below! I still have some psychological issues, and intimacy is difficult at  times – my body is working just fine, but my head shuts down.”

Read more: http://www.cosmopolitan.co.uk/lifestyle/big-issue/cosmo-reports/special-fgm-report-cant-look-at-razorblade#ixzz34KMeIonK

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