{"id":1725,"date":"2021-06-01T12:29:11","date_gmt":"2021-06-01T11:29:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.haloproject.org.uk\/blog\/?p=1725"},"modified":"2022-07-21T17:27:01","modified_gmt":"2022-07-21T16:27:01","slug":"saira-khan-growing-up-i-thought-domestic-abuse-was-part-of-our-culture-and-normal","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.haloproject.org.uk\/blog\/saira-khan-growing-up-i-thought-domestic-abuse-was-part-of-our-culture-and-normal\/","title":{"rendered":"Saira Khan: ‘Growing up, I thought domestic abuse was part of our culture and normal’"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

When I was thrust into the media spotlight after being on The Apprentice in 2005, I vowed to use my platform to talk about life growing up in Britain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From a young age I felt that while I was British \u2013 born and educated here \u2013 I was not represented.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At times, it felt like Asian matters were dealt with by unelected community leaders, while the rest of the population was accounted for by laws and MPs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Many women like me, who try to straddle two distinct cultures, see and experience things that others never do \u2013 arranged marriages, forced marriages, child brides, cultural control.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Many come here from places like Pakistan, India and Bangladesh, with no knowledge of the language, and are forced to be dutiful maids at the mercy of the families they have been married into<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is a generalisation but, from what I saw growing up, it was a regular norm. That is my truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Some people accuse me of only highlighting negative stories from the South Asian culture.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The trolls come out in force, some issuing death threats, in the hope I will just shut up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But I have always made a stand for the women in my community because so many can\u2019t speak up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They don\u2019t know who to talk to without feeling judged. And they could be \u00adostracised \u2013 or killed \u2013 for dishonouring their families.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The guilt bestowed upon Asian women from birth is indescribable. You learn to live with it but that guilt shapes every aspect of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And it keeps the misogyny alive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

MPs don\u2019t want to discuss the abuse in case they\u2019re accused of being racist. But silence results in innocent women being abused, violated and murdered.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I grew up thinking it was acceptable for men to shout at women and that hitting is part of our culture and normal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It isn\u2019t. It\u2019s domestic abuse and there are laws in this country to protect us from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We need this message to infiltrate all communities in Britain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.mirror.co.uk\/3am\/celebrity-news\/saira-khan-growing-up-thought-24211502\n<\/div><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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